Nobody is coming to save you!
Yeah, there’s no fairy or white knight coming to help you get that spontaneous promotion or that perfect business plan. And there is no chance that a miracle will suddenly change everything you hate about your life.
Remember this: Nothing and no one can improve your life unless you change yourself. Realizing that your destiny will magically evolve is the biggest mistake one can ever make. The thing is, once we stop working hard, we actually start doubting our own potential. What makes matters worse is that we end up never really discovering the true power we hold within ourselves.
What is Self-Leadership?
Self-leadership is all about having a developed sense of who you are. You should be aware of what you can do, and how you should influence your communication and emotions on the way to getting there. Self-leadership has an impact on all aspects of your life – your health, your career and your relationships.
What is so special about Self-Leaders?
Self-leaders know their intention and core values and at the same time, they are well aware of what can push their buttons and derail them. As they take positive actions and develop skills, they become more confident from knowing their strengths and abilities. Yes, they realize that they aren’t special beings who’re entitled to stardom and recognition. Even the most successful people begin at the bottom and work hard to achieve something big and make it to the top!
Self-Leadership Characteristics that Will Change Your Life:
Nothing in life happens without focus. Don’t try to do everything at once. Instead, take it one step at a time. It is important that you remain focused and set goals for your life. Focus also means being very clear on what you are saying yes to. Remember, there are goals outside of work too. Put your entire life in focus, not just your professional experience. By focusing in the right direction, you’re going to work for what you what.
Needless to say, you can only work in the right direction provided you know exactly what needs to be done. Effective planning leads to positive actions, which is necessary if you want to make a change.
Discipline is finishing what you started; Following through with what you said you were going to do long after the excitement has left you; Doing what you have committed to even when no one is watching! Becoming disciplined and earning self-leadership requires you to become accountable for your actions and reactions. That’s right.
When you are a leader, you are in a position of personal power and it’s no use playing the blame game. Take ownership of your decisions, actions and of course, outcomes. Remember, you always have a choice to think and then react to any situation.
Statistically speaking there is no such thing as a ‘good excuse.’ Some of you may be telling yourself that you could never do something. Remember that circumstances are never going to be perfect and failure is inevitable, so instead of hiding behind your excuses and self-doubts, get out to work.
• Delayed Gratification
Delayed gratification is putting off the unnecessary things today in order to achieve something bigger, later. Those who delay gratification are more successful with their career, finances, personal relationships and all other areas of life. One of the classic examples of delayed gratification is to be able to save money to buy a new car, as opposed to spending every penny you have now with impulse buys.
Gratitude is a graceful glow that comes from being grateful to people, experiences and privileges. Being grateful also means you should be able to see and experience everything with perspective. Take notice of all the great things in your life. Look at what others in the world don’t have and don’t get to do and appreciate the comfort and opportunities that you have every second of the day. If you channel this, you will live with a mindset of abundance and happiness. If you don’t, you will live in scarcity, which channels a list of negative emotional states.
• Embracing the Uncomfortable
Hiding inside your comfort cocoon won’t get you anywhere. Instead, move out of your comfort zone and accept the challenges life throws at you. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people in any space is that successful people ignore their excuses and overcome challenges. The average cling to negativity and self-doubt like life rafts.
Last, you MUST always take action on the results that you know will move you towards your goals and vision! No matter what! Execute plans that would move you and your goals forward the fastest. Without relentless action there will be ZERO progress. The biggest thing holding you back from massive action is FEAR but I want you to know that FEAR does NOT live in action, it only lives in procrastination and stagnation.
Remember, you are here to be the best version of you and help others be the same along the way. If that’s what you truly want, you need to get good at these characteristics, practice them daily and enjoy the ride!